Mary Pat doesn't float around with an umbrella, but she does have 20 years of experience as a Child Development Expert. This column will answer questions about child development concerns & managing your employee/employer relationship.



Q:  Whenever I take my charge, three-year-old Charlotte, to the park, she plays with the same little girl.  They have the best time playing together, and I would love to set up a play date for the two of them.  Is it appropriate for me to schedule this? -Maria

A:  Dear Maria,
It’s nice that you are watching Charlotte so closely and are encouraging her to make friends.  You know that being a great Nanny involves so much more than just “watching” children.  Having an awareness of social connections, health and development, and school issues and sharing your observations with the parents can be very valuable.  I recommend that you always check with the parents before planning any play dates.  Never have your friends or other children over to your employer’s house without getting their specific permission first.  In this case, Charlotte’s mom will probably have an opinion about how to foster the friendship between the girls.  She may suggest that you schedule play dates at the park or she may want to meet the little girl and her family herself.

Q: Some of my best Nanny friends vent to me about their employers and share the details of the family’s private information along with all their complaints.  I’m uncomfortable hearing the details, but I want to listen and support my friends.  What should I do? -Angela

A:  Hi Angela,
Your instincts are right; it is inappropriate for Nannies to gossip about their employers.  Your friend probably feels like she is part of her employer’s family and forgets that as close and personal as it is, this is an employment relationship.  The family is certainly counting on her to keep their family life private.  In fact, your friend could even lose her job for betraying their confidence.  You can support your friend by being honest with her.  Tell her that you don’t want to hear the details but you can help her with strategies to feel better about her job.  Please also suggest that she call us at Town & Country Resources for confidential advice.

If you have a question you want answered, you can send an e-mail to: mppower@tandcr.com and it will be covered (anonymously) in an upcoming newsletter.


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